We get a lot of questions about relationships here at The Manism, and one of the most popular subjects we get asked about is about what makes men fall in love. In the hopes of providing the best answer, our editors have sorted through our mail, picked the 5 best questions and had our male writers provide the answers.
A cute girl who is light on life, knows how to have fun and stands out from the bunch. A man usually doesn’t realize he is in love right away because he is probably having too much fun to understand what is going on. Guys are attracted to girls who don’t take thing seriously, enjoy the same drinking games he does, and loves all the same sports. In fact his bros will get it before he does. The first sign that one of your buddies is in love is that he starts talking about how cool she is, or how different she might be from other girls. Another sign is that he starts to ditch hockey games with the guys for dinner and a movie with you. Most of our buddies come to terms with the fact he might be falling in love because his guy friends point it out to him.
This is directly related to the question above. If you are the real deal, your relationship will be rock solid for years to come. However, the romance is destined to burn out should you be that poser girl who pretends to have all his interest in common. If you’ve met a guy you think is cute, just be yourself. If he mentions a love of Sci-Fi, don’t pretend to care if you really don’t. Getting his attention might be fun at first, but eventually you won’t be able to keep up faking it, and he will start realizing you aren’t the person he actually had a great first few dates with. When that happens, expect him to take his space, more often than not, that space will become permanent.
This is not easy to answer as we can’t place every man into one group. We would have to look at character types, and break it down into sub sections. But, in brief, remember that men in general have been oppressed by society when it comes to showing emotions. Growing up we are thought that real men don’t cry. Your man might be subtle when it comes to showing love, so ladies please appreciate the little things. He might of forgotten Valentine’s day, but he spent Saturday morning rotating the tires on your car. He did that because he wants you to be safe, and that is how he shows love.
Very eye opening. Some men truly don't remember special days but have other ways of showing their love.
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