Have you ever imagined that no man really planned to beat his woman, have paused to think.... "Did he plan all these?" Many times we blame the devil for almost everything in life. I'm sure by now the devil himself will blame us for blaming him all the time; like if a pilot and the airline refuse running due and proper checks on their aircraft and it crashes, don't we drop the blame on the devil?
Sigmund Freud wrote the famous quote "What's on a mans mind" with the famous pictorial illustration of his side-carves.
The silence of a mans mind is the reason why women mistakenly fall victim of domestic violence. A man may never want to come open to say these are the reasons he's beating her because they may sound too childish a reason or just plain "selfish and arrogant" but they remain in his mind and as long as you don't get wind of it, you keep making him turn you a victim.
Everyone falls out of friendship no matter what or who. We fall out with our parents, friends, neighbors, employer, strangers and why not hubby? But what sincere character do you exhibit towards life and the little issues around you? WOMEN TAKE NOTE: every man has a trigger, you know this most times but still choose to shoot.
1) OBEDIENCE: Have you ever been found disobeying your partners instruction? If YES! Well, this is not enough reason for him to abuse you but what if this is his trigger? When a man realizes he's loosing control consistently, in the silence of his heart he takes drastic and mean decisions. And when you push him to start the abuse then you suddenly began to obey, once again his silent mind tells him in louder tone, IT WORKED... IT WORKED... For sake of brevity, The rest is history. He won't stop now, it's already a tool for obedience.
2) JEALOUSY: if your man is jealous he automatically becomes insecure, in the begining women see this as possessing an overtly loving personality, they think they are to hot and sweet hence they start to fan the embers of their sexuality by talking to more guy's or simply just doing the opposite of what he wants as regards protecting her, ignoring his wants makes him listen to that silent mind. NOTE: you can ignore a gun wielding man, but never ignore the wails of a jealous man, it's the worse thing to do.
3) EMBERRASMENT: Some women have a Phd In insulting, talking down or shouting back their partner. He does it to you doesn't make it right and should not make you reciprocate, Some men can condole this but certainly not all. It's a proven theory that all women have a "sharp-mouth-tendency" in marriages. In economics and physics their's a topic called "Elasticity" when you pull a rubber and it gets to it's breaking point, it breaks. Such is how some women extend their rage in front of guest, on the road or even in front of kids until it reaches it breaking point.
4) FRUSTRATION: This area is always triggered as a secondary response, there are some people who naturally have a way of putting their frustrations on your little or big mistakes. After a lost contract, sack, depression or loss of something, bad working day or a total and colossal state of frustration (which every man often run's into) a mans brain naturally starts to spin like a carousel. Here's the time a women must be patient, respectful and less resentful because anything can trigger him hence but some women take it upon themselves to do whatever they want and feel whenever disregarding the mood. Can you bomb a house and expect the pillars to stand?
5) LAZINESS & UNINTELLIGENCE: A man could be naturally lazy (not all) when it comes to chores, but men feel they've married a stool and a worthless article when it dawns on them that their partner is too loose, carefree, materialistic & plastic-brained . Do you know the easiest way to earn a mans respect is to be hardworking, uptight and moving If you make yourself a price/medal hanging on the shelf (good for nothing) sooner or later you'll end up being kicked around whenever it's cleaning day. Even if you are a house wife there are many ways to earn respect, decipher that.
One way or the other a woman would have committed at least one, two, three or all of the five above listed sins that could prick the silent mind. Banal as it may seem or realistically you can't vouch for the other persons change in character, you can only try to manage it or understand it before hand.
In future weeks I'll share another post titled "20 things a man wants from a woman". Hopefully, I believe I have been able to light a candle in a very large and dark alleyway. This are my views and not necessarily that of every man.
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