Taking a deep look at our own Linda Ikeji, you can't help but acknowledge her so deeply rooted and enchanting simplicity, beau and charisma. she holds her head up high as a celebrated blogger, author and ex-model; she purely does not only deserve my respect but have also earned it.
Something she did a few months back have not only taken me to the cleaners but has led me to do this two part series on a mind probing issue society would rather leave untouched. here's Linda's blog post on her circumcision and the resultant effects on her private life which she unbelievably made public.Sex was created by God for two basic reasons [1] Procreation and [2] for enjoyment, but something questions me when this two reasons that are to complement each other no longer make any meaning to certain individuals simply because something, somewhere had been altered. Taking a rare look at the subject ''CIRCUMCISION'' it reverberates a sense that a change that wasn't needed was made.
More like saying CIRCUMVENT which means to ‘evade’ and INCISION to ‘cut or slit’ these are simplistic and definitive words for female circumcision. While evade stands for the purpose of the gesture, to slit is the action that ushers the gesture and am of the school of thought that believes Sex in itself is just an act, while good-sex is an experience and a way of life. To seek this experience to the maximum is to be entirely sunk in the act.
An example of what am trying to drive at is thus: imagine you found yourself in a Lord of The Rings, Harry Potter, Pirate of the Caribbean or Odysseus scenario and you are particularly the man in the middle of the adventure you certainly would be prepared for a long tasking adventure that enables you to discover, engage, partake, subdue and eventually triumph. To be the key middle-man you often and always do lack something vital but have several other things to your advantage.
Now here is the lead, sex is really designed for everybody and inclusive the lame but an exemption is the ‘lame at heart’. Sex is an art, an adventure and an absolute state of emancipation. Just like the adventurer whom often lacks one key-thing but has several others, he goes all the way to survive, succumb, discover, engage, partake, subdue and eventually triumph. This exactly is my argument for a circumcised woman who believes sex is really not worth it with her 'clit' slit off.
Modern and olden days sexologist have often expressed common and vivid fact that sex is encompassing and that they are more sex organs or sexually related body parts than what seldom meets the brain. Who says a woman cannot enjoy sex with or without her clitoris?
In this write-up, I won't by any means delve into the biology of the vagina but one thing I won’t shy away from stating are the enormous erogenous zones embedded in a woman’s body. Based on experience the breast of a woman is erogenous to a fault, same as the lips and the lower clit-zone. Away from these three, the G-spot is just lying up above the inner vagina and it surrounding regions, and the vulva holds-up serious sensation when thoroughly and well caressed.
The neck is a deep sensual zone if not regarded erogenous, same as the tummy, buttocks, and thigh etc... Note that this largely depends on each individualistic woman and her apparent sensibility. But my attention now stir’s to the men whom are presumed to be the driver of sex, a long standing and erroneous believe that have come to reside in the core of Africa’s sexual exigency.
If you don’t love to dare and you don’t dare to survive, succumb, discover, engage, partake, subdue and eventually triumph you can never play the adventurers role either in a movie, in real life or in bed; and here is where worst the problem lay. Just as the men are lazy to take on the role to discover a woman and explore her same is how the women have left themselves unexplored and unraveled.
I've often asked, why do women find it hard to discourse sex or sexual related issues with a man, Why do they think it’s absurd to tell a man what to do sexually to help her achieve more sexually, Why do they assume the man knows it all and when he doesn’t reach her expectation she just accepts it that way? isn't it fool-hardy?
I've often asked, why do women find it hard to discourse sex or sexual related issues with a man, Why do they think it’s absurd to tell a man what to do sexually to help her achieve more sexually, Why do they assume the man knows it all and when he doesn’t reach her expectation she just accepts it that way? isn't it fool-hardy?
what's your take.
BY: Bentley Iyoha
MY LAGOS BLOG
Linda is just an attention seeker. A blogger can go too far at times; when he or she is sure of receiving comments from a lot of fans. That's all!
ReplyDeleteIdeally, most modern Nigerian men would not want to marry a circumcised woman. Our men love the best of good things.
She made a big mistake by revealing too much online. No man would want to be seen with a woman with no ciltoris, would you?
Was all her ciltoris chopped off or part of it because there are different types of circumcision.
I am circumcised and I am more sexually active than most women. Circumcision allows me to withdraw from sex when I wish to. A lot of Nigerian men are circumcised so what is the big deal? Attention seeking...