MARRAIGE, WITH AN ARGUMENT FOR POLYGAMY By (Angel Voice)

Polygamy is a good thing and these are just some of the points for it. 

1) Wives in a polygamous marriage are more RESPECTFUL AND LOVING towards their husbands. This is because they realise that their husband has a choice of another wife to rely on for what the disrepectful or disobedient one refuses to do. Women naturally hate and are terribly scared of competition when it comes to a man they are dating or are married to and once there is competition in the form of another wife, each wife strifes to give her husband the best of her by being what our society describes as 'a good wife'. Remember that many divorces have been as a result of the 'obstinacy and rude behaviour; of the wife.May I just add that this is why women in a christian marriage especially in churches that FORBID DIVORCE are oftentimes TERRORS TO THIER HUSBANDS. This is because they know that their husbands have  NO CHOICE because they would not DARE go against what the CHURCH says on DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE. moreover women when they are dating a man will be on their very best behaviour, never complaining about anything, most tolerant, most loving, most respectful to the man UNTIL he then CHOOSES them out of his thousands of girlfriends as the one he 'CAN LIVE WITH', marries them and right after the wedding the complaints begin to run unceasingly, the stubborn streak rears it's ugly head and the endless quarrels and fights commence. And the husband ask's himself what went wrong. Nothing sir, you are now SOLELY hers and the church and society forbid DIVORCE AND POLYGAMY. So your wife knows you have NO CHOICE BUT TO BE STUCK WITH HER whether she is good or bad.2) Wives in a polygamous marriage share duties and so are not saddled with far more than one woman can cope with. A woman in a monogamous marriage is expected to cook often more than three meals a day, cater to the needs and well being of her husband, children and all other members of her house-hold before she can be termed 'a good wife' and in the course of fulfilling these obligations she finds herself ageing years earlier than her polygamous who has division of labour applied in her polygamous setting. Again a wife in a monogamous marriage is 'saddled, inunadated with far more duties than one person can handle and her marital tasks are from dusk to dawn leaving her barely able to drag herself to bed at the end of the day and expectedly unable to see through that most important of tasks that is expected between married couples upon retiring to bed leaving her husban with yet one more thing to justify an extra-marital affair which then inevitably leads to divorce.2) African husbands in a polygamous marriage also complain less and are happier in the home than a husband in a monogamous marriage. This is because all men not just African men (don't let the white man fool you) are by their very nature polygamous and being in a monogamous union with just one woman and no extras from any where else is to a 'real' man simply UNBEARABLE. This leads him to be most unhappy at home and thus antagonistic and very aggressive  towards the wife (transferred aggression) which often leads to divorce. 3)Again the husband does not have reason to continously complain about one wife's 'poor cooking, poor skills at entertaining etc because he can always rely on another wife who is better in that particular skill than the others and so peace prevails more in this setting.The truth above all else is that the African man as indeed all men around the world (don't let the white man fool you) are by their very nature polygamous. A 'real man' in a monogamous marriage feels nothing but 'CAGED IN WITH ONE WOMAN' and resents this with all his heart but simply tries because he wishes to conform to society's expectations of a good man particularly in the 'CHRISTIAN FOLD'. Most of these men regardless of their religous inclinations DO HAVE EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS. Examples abound.Again, there are so many single girls of marriageable age in Nigeria today and when these single girls look around and see their agemates and even younger girls all married and in their husband's houses these girls then begin to view themselves as being deficient and not good enough for any man. Society sadly shares their view and 'JUDGES' them as having an underlying problem or as having been too promiscous in their younger years whereas being married does not necessarily mean one is an ANGEL.Also women who are kept as MISTRESSES by MARRIED MEN would be spared public ridicule as KEPT WOMEN OR 'STRANGE WOMEN' if the men keeping these women simply married them. But one finds such men pleading that they would marry their mistresses at the 'drop of a hat' if it was not for their religous beliefs especially those in the CHRISTIAN FOLD. Yes it is true, look around you, they abound. Whereas in truth these men simply USE AND EXPLOIT these women's loneliness and natural desire for a companion for nothing other than their (the men) SELFISH SOLE SEXUAL GRATIFICATION most especially when 'MADAM' is PREGNANT or has TRAVELLED. I am sure everyone would agree that it would be far better for these women to be married to their monogamous boyfriend in order to also be accorded the respect our society showers on their boyfriend's wives. Afterall what is good for the gander is good for the Goose.And for those who will say that polygamy breeds violence in the household I would want to remind them that our FOREFATHERS were 'REAL MEN' who practiced polygamy alwas had absolute control of their entire households and so there was never any violence or strife in the home. A 'REAL MAN' will have a thorough grip on the actions of his children and his wife/wives. Sadly with today's world men have lost this African indication of 'MANHOOD' and will justify in very ABSURED AND PERPLEXING WAYS the EXCESSES and MISBEHAVIOUR of their wives to the shock and dismay of all within earshot. Let us be truthful polygamy is good. It prevents married men from using being married as an excuse for SEXUALLY USING AND DUMPING single girls as they please. With POLYGAMY these married men will no longer have an excuse not to marry their girlfrien